A person may love someone for a momentary crush and not have real love thus making a relationship less likely to last long; a breakup, then, comes as a big blow. Therefore, people are always keen to know if the person who they are attracted to loves them or not. This is because people in relationships, especially new ones, do not disclose their feelings openly and frankly. Both the persons in relationship are, therefore, left confused about the feelings of each other towards each other.
A person directly confronted and asked if he/she loves him/her may feel obliged to say ‘yes’ even if he/she does not really mean it; this is just not to hurt the person and to tide over the confrontation. Much goes into the study and observation of the psychology, behaviour and the body language of the opposite person to find out if he/she loves him/her or not. It is important to know that one signal does not suffice to know if the opposite person loves and is interested in keeping the relationship going.
One should be aware of the fact that subconsciously, the person sends signals to the other partner of their love/dislike or hatred towards him/her. These are the real emotions one has to look out for. Some observations mentioned below if kept in the forefront of one’s mind, can help one to find out whether his/her partner loves him/her or not.
-DOES HE OR SHE LOVES YOU:
Initially, there is formality in the relationship when the two meet which soon turns to informality; there is praise and appreciation for one another. This is an indication that the relationship is growing and he/she loves his/her partner. They will begin to look into one another’s eyes for increasing span of time instead of looking away from the partner. The person who loves will very naturally keep his/her lover within their sight-range. Lovers do not like the one they love to be out of their sight even for a moment if that was possible.
To begin with, the two partners will find ways and means to be with each other and they make all efforts to bump into each other several times, anytime and anywhere. This may be initially concluded as coincidental but when it frequently happens it is deliberate and the love in their hearts should not be overlooked.
The physical distance between the two when they meet increasingly lessens if he/she loves the other person. Such closeness will not be found when they meet other people.
When the two stand with a crowd, the natural tendency will be for the person to go and stand with his/her lover. This will not be found if there is no love one for another. This is a part of the body language study and it is true that they will always prefer to stand face to face with each other.
Another subtle way the lover displays his/her love for the partner is with talking and showing concern about small things. They will simply call up the partner and ask if everything is alright with them or they may ask if he/she wants anything for him/her to get. As a pretext for just conversing, they like to go on and on talking even about insignificant matters. If the frequency of such calls increases it shows that he/she loves him/her.
One should watch for the sparkle in the eyes of his/her partner. If there is love, the eyes sparkle when they meet; if they do not love, there will be dullness in their eyes. They may even avoid looking at each other or even meet each other.
-LOVE SIGNS AND SIGNALS:
People sends signals of their love/dislike or hatred towards another person whom they like or dislike. These are the real emotions one has to look out for. Some observations mentioned below if kept in the forefront of one’s mind, can help one to find out whether his/her partner loves him/her or not.
Excitement and liveliness is very obvious in the tone and the facial expression of the one who loves. The smile is also invariably very broad and genuine. The one who loves tends to smile even when there is no real reason to do so. They may try to hide their smile but that, too, cannot be missed. Also, the smile stays for a long time and takes time to fade off. If a smile fades off quickly, it is a sign that he/she does not love his/ her partner. A smile comes and stays when they meet but if one day it comes and the next day he/she tries to ignore or does not smile, that indicates that he/she does not love and is not interested in him/her.
A person in love generally laughs at small jokes which may not even make good sense at times. The person trying to find if he/she loves her should have frequent talks with the person from time to time and observe his/her reaction to it. It should be observed if the conversation between the couple goes on for long and is easy and smooth or if it ends up quickly with nothing more to talk about, or if there is need for each other to search for topics for conversation because the talk between them is not progressive. If it is the former, it is obvious that the partner loves him/her whereas if it is the latter, then it is a proof that there is lack of love in the partner.
One is sure of a partner’s love for him/her if he/she takes genuine interest in his/her activities. he/she not only wants to watch the partner but also encourages him/her, motivating to do better, then this person is genuinely in love with his/her partner. he/she may even want their partner to excel and try to help him/her in this by personal involvement if that is possible. If it is the opposite, and the partner always feels snubbed, then there is no love in the relationship.
If the partner touches his/her partner’ hand or cheeks, it means that there is love in his/her partner’s heart towards him/her.
One may hear from others that his/her partner has been bragging about and praising them before others, then it a sure sign that he/she loves his/her partner. Even their friends may give away the person’s love for his/her partner by glancing and smiling when they see the couple because that indicates that he/she has been talking in the positive about him/her. If he/she does not praise or talk positively about his/her partner to others, it is a sign that he/she does not love his/her partner. he/she may even be observed to find fault with the other partner and that too frequently proving their dislike for their partner.
A girl may give away her love for her partner by blushing when they happen to cross each other in the way or when they meet.
-IDENTIFYING LOVE SIGNS, SIGNALS AND BODY LANGUAGE:
If a girl/boy does not respond to his/her call or messages, it shows that they do not love their partner and want to avoid them and even call off the relationship.
If they did not meet for quite some time, the person in love will keep a track of the one they love by calling on phone about their welfare. They may do this just to hear the voice of his/her love and may give a silly reason for calling up. They may even show interest in the person they love by asking the same from the partner’s friends and close associates.
A person in love may like to be with his/her partner for each and every activity and occasion, finding the time of togetherness as a time of joy. he/she wants to go shopping, to movies, to other sources of entertainment just to spend longer time with the one they love.
A boy shows his love for the girl whom he is in love with by going that extra mile to help her out in work or giving her protection when needed e.g. he may not allow her to go back home/college hostel alone; instead, he will go to leave her there. He will make all efforts to make his love as comfortable as possible.
A person in love tends to remember every bit of a conversation which the couple had together. This is a sign that the person loves him/her.
A person in love is overly interested in the friends and family members of the one they love. he/she will accept the family of the partner whoever they are and in whatever situation of life they are in, though, this is more applicable to the girl.
A person not in love with his/her partner may reveal it indirectly by saying where he/she spent his/her evening or the weekend; it may be at a party or a get-together. If the partner had not been invited, it is clear that he/she does not love him/her. On the other hand, a person shows love for his/her partner if he/she deliberately decides to miss out on his/her very important program. For him/her, it is more valuable to be with the person they love than to leave them and to go attend a program.
Couples in relationship try to look more attractive and focus on grooming more than before. This sign, when observed shows that he/she is in love with his/her partner.